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Michael
Dec 9th 2009, 08:16 PM
How to Turn Your Kid Into a Bully

A new study links bullying behavior by adolescents to the perception they are not treated fairly by their parents.

How are bullies born? The issue has been the subject of intense study, particularly in the decade since two students who had been bullied went on a violent rampage at Columbine High School. Much of the resultant research includes the term "cycle of violence," which has become a shorthand way of acknowledging that a youngster who is a victim of physical abuse in the home is more likely to become a perpetrator.

Now, a research team led by Michael Brubacher of DePaul University has found a more subtle connection between inadequate parenting and adolescent bullying. In a paper just published in the journal Psychology, Public Policy and Law, the academics coin the term "cycle of dominance."

The phrase reflects their finding that, in transmitting bad behavior from one generation to the next, the issue isn't strictly the use of physical force. It's also a matter of whether the youngster grows up with a sense that conflicts can be resolved in a just, fair way.

In short, if a kid feels he's being punished arbitrarily at home, he is more likely to engage in arbitrary punishment on the streets or in the schoolyard.

Article (http://www.miller-mccune.com/news/how-to-turn-your-kid-into-a-bully-1494)

This is a perennially interesting topic - the old 'nature vs nurture' debate. At the very least, it is refreshing to see a study point to environmental conditions being significant rather than the 'genetic-biology' based arguments that have seemingly become so common.

Zarquon
Dec 10th 2009, 06:37 AM
Article (http://www.miller-mccune.com/news/how-to-turn-your-kid-into-a-bully-1494)

This is a perennially interesting topic - the old 'nature vs nurture' debate. At the very least, it is refreshing to see a study point to environmental conditions being significant rather than the 'genetic-biology' based arguments that have seemingly become so common.
There is not that big a debate among scientific circles (if I gather correctly, its more of a media thing), as its obviously bit of both; though, I would give more weight to nurture seeing how millions of kids in Sub-Saharan Africa(and other impoverished regions) and are 'destined' to little or no education and thus either destitution or cheap labour despite of whatever inherent capacities they may possess. And how everything from breastfeeding to having an involved father are strong indicators of future development/success/contentment.

The Drunk Girl
Dec 11th 2009, 02:56 PM
All the kids I saw growing up who were considered bullies, came from rough homes and neighborhoods. They didn't "know" any better, because they were lacking a proper example in the home setting.

On a personal note, lacking a father figure until the age of 8 growing up in a sense did fuck me up. I was an only child at that time and my mother's only friend. I had to grow up pretty fast, because I was the only person she had to talk to.

Also, hearing, seeing, and experiencing for myself at a very young age how abusive and manipulative my biological father is, turned me into a "man-hater" for awhile. I never seemed to get along with male teachers in school and trusting a man, other than my grandfather, seemed silly to me. Being independent and strong female is important to me and always has been a goal of mine since I was little....experiencing yelling and rough and tumble forms of discipline, subconsciously led me to believe that is how arguments are handled with those that you love.

It truly is amazing how having one person in your life or the lack of, can create so much anger in a person. It has taken years of growing and pain (plus the help of a shrink) to get me to where I am now.